How to Overcome Your Fear of Haters

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“Annoying.”

“Glib nonsense.”

[email protected]# off!”

“You’re lame and not funny.”

“You suck!”

These are all real messages I’ve received from people. And these are the “safe-for-email” ones. They get plenty worse, believe me.

What was my evil crime worthy of such contempt?

Giving my opinion. Talking about the things I think are important for you as a developer. In a completely voluntary scenario.

Now, don’t cry for me! Lol.

Contrary to what my haters like to tell me, I couldn’t care less what they think. I don’t bring them up to whine. I bring them up when they illustrate a point I think is important for YOU.

In this case, the fact that no matter what you do… you will have haters.

You could do everything right. Say all the right things. Being kind and generous… fun to work with, engaging… on and on.

And, somebody’d be mad that you’re “too perfect”.

Geez!

You can’t let it stop you!

I see this all the time with people pursuing a “non-traditional” path to success. They have doubters and haters and people who wish they’d just go back to how they used to be.

And, often times… let it stop them.

Don’t do it.

You will ALWAYS have nay-sayers.

Remember, it’s not about you… it’s about them.

How do I know? Because of these people:

“Everytime i listen to your Podcasts i know i’m on the right path !! I’m getting paid good money now :)”

“I feel inspired by both the email and podcast snippet.”

“This video is exactly what I needed.”

“I can’t thank you enough.”

“Thanks John for this post! Encouraging and so sincere :)”

“I spent hours on Lynda looking for something like this. Never found it. Thank you”

You get the point.

For every one piece of hate mail, I might get 5 or 10 thanking me, telling me how something I said changed their life, and showing me the success they’ve had.

Now, I’m not making the claim to doing anything great…

But, IF you are going to doing something great… something that touches people’s lives and makes a difference for them… haters come along with it.

Do it anyway!

As for our business for the day… if you’d like to BE one of those success stories from above, might I humbly suggest become a supporting listener over on Patreon. You’ll help keep everything no-cost for those who truly can’t afford it AND you get access to dope perks like source code, exclusive training, and more. Go ye hither future success story:

http://johnmorrisonline.com/patreon

P.S. If you liked the show, give it a like and share with the communities and people you think will benefit. And, you can always find all my tutorials, podcast episodes and more on johnmorrisonline.com, @jpmorris on Twitter and youtube.com/johnmorrisvideo.

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