Just read this tweet from Ed Latimore (former heavyweight boxer):
My boxing coach always said, "If you want friends, be unsuccessful." https://t.co/C0jT1YurqB
— Ed Latimore (@EdLatimore) December 31, 2018
Groan at that if you want, but it’s true.
For me, one of the major turning points in my life and career is when I stopped seeking out friends and instead sought “allies”. An ally of mine, Michael Skye, taught me this. And, it can be life-changing.
A friend is someone who comforts and consoles you.
They excuse and justify your shortcomings for you.
They’re rationalize your failures.
They’re good to have in your life.
You need that, sometimes.
But, if that’s ALL you have.
You have no one to hold you accountable to your best self.
That’s what an ally is. An ally doesn’t accept you for who you are, but sees you for what you could be, what you WANT to be. And, they hold you accountable to continually seeking and honoring your best self.
They push you.
Challenge you.
And, don’t make excuses for you.
When you fail and seek their comfort…
They give you none.
Instead they ask, “Now what?”
And, I’ll just say this. If you want to be successful and actually achieve the things you want in life, you NEED allies in your life. In fact, the more I’ve invited allies into mine, the more successful I’ve become.
So, while you’re thinking about 2019…
And, all the things you want to accomplish…
Make “more allies” one of them.
That one resolution, alone, can help you achieve all the others.
In any case, that’s how I see my role for you. I’m not your friend. I’m your ally. Which is why I hammer away at the excuses and the bullshit. I won’t let you off the hook. I won’t rationalize your shortcomings or failures.
I see you for what you could be.
And, I’ll continue to do so for as long as you listen.
Anyway, if starting a freelancing or web development career is in your plans for 2019 plans, I really do believe my curriculum is one great way to make that happen. My freelancing courses are top-ranked on SkillShare.
And, my web development courses the same.
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But, fair warning…
There’s no hand-holding.
I will challenge you throughout.
If you’re ready to take that challenge and make 2019 happen…
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Later,
John
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John, great article, bro! Can you please unban me on your YouTube channel so that I can troll again?
Happy New Year!
I’ll think about it…