These code-thugs get all the chicks (and clients)

This a true story.

It’s from a friend about one of her high school classmates.

So, this chick seemingly has it all. She’s a lawyer with her law degree from an Ivy League school. She married a world-famous surgeon. Has an adorable little son with him. Muney, family, respect… everything you could want, right?

Yet, here she is about to throw it all away…

For some literal gangbanger.

She works as an appeals attorney.

She helps drug offenders who DID commit the drug crime… but they work to commute sentences that they believe are too long. And, in that, she “met someone”. A literal gangbanger who has a rap sheet a mile long (including violent offenses), face tats, illiterate… the whole 9 yards.

Yet, she goes to bed all wet just thinking about him.

Fantasizing about what he’ll do to her…

As she sleeps next to her husband and son.

And now that he’s out on parole…

The dirty little thoughts are in overdrive. It’s apparently everything she can do to keep from driving to this guy’s shack and riding him like a beat mule. She’s on the verge of throwing her entire life away, including her son, to jump this guy’s bones.

Again… true story.

The classic “bad boy”, home-wrecker tale of woe…

But, that’s how attraction works.

When you feel it, you feel it.

And, you can’t stop it.

Of course, if you’re a psychology nerd like me… what’s happening here is very simple. Her husband bends over backwards to make her happy, gives her everything she wants, never tells her no and makes soft, sweet love to her.

The other dude…

Would pull her hair, tell her to eff off, cheat on her…

And eff her brains out, gangsta-style.

He makes HER feel insecure…

And needy.

While her husband IS insecure and needy.

And, confidence = attraction.

Now, that doesn’t make her less of a dirtbag…

But, it’s just the way it works.

Even if you’re a violent, face-tattoed gangbanger.

Anyway, randomness today… but there’s a lesson here fellas. Confidence. It’s what matters. Not just with the ladies… but with clients, bosses, customers, etc. And, I don’t mean that fake ish… the real stuff. People can smell a fraud a mile away.

The more confident you are, the more things will fall into place for you.

But, the way you get REAL, authentic and long-lasting confidence isn’t by being a violent a-hole. Confidence comes from competence. Knowing what the hell you’re doing… and knowing that you know. And, the way you become a more confident (and attractive) coder is to become a master of your craft. To know your ish. When you do, the confidence will just ooze off of you.

And, others will just FEEL it.

(Clients, customers, friends, family… and yes… da ladies.)

Anyway, one way you can get there is this:

Udemy’s 10-buq deal..

Some of the best web development courses on the planet…

Normally 150-200 buqs…

Just 10 buqs right now.

So, you can master those skills…

And, become a more confident coder (and person).

And make sure some gangbanger doesn’t steal your girl from you…

Er something like that.

Here’s the link:



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